
Last week, Richard and I celebrated 13 years of being an eternal family. On Facebook, I posted something about our anniversary & in part of the post, I wrote “It’s been 13 years full of bumps & twists & turns, but I wouldn’t want to be travelling this road of life with anyone else by my side!”
When I wrote that, I never would have imagined that life would throw us another bump the next day!
Richard went to get our Bountiful Baskets order in the morning & things were going just as any other normal Saturday. He was working on fixing something for the lawnmower. He grabbed my laptop to take out to the lawnmower to look up some serial number. The girls were in the pantry working on moving laundry into the living room so I could sort it out and fold it. All of a sudden, I heard a massive scream & ran to the pantry to see my laptop on its side on the floor and Richard lying on his back with an arm straight out & screaming on the pantry floor. Apparently, he tripped over one of the laundry baskets somehow and started to fall & moved so he’d save the laptop & ended up falling directly onto his right shoulder.
He couldn’t move his right arm at all. I couldn’t help him up. He claimed he’d get up himself, but I knew that wouldn’t happen. He was in excruciating pain. I said I’d go get the neighbor we know the best, but he said that neighbor had just left. I went to another neighbor’s house & her husband wasn’t home. However, she knew the newer neighbors so she went to their house with me to introduce me & see if they could help. The awesome man came over and helped Richard get off the floor and into the car so I could take him to the emergency room! I was so glad I didn’t have to call an ambulance!!
Richard could barely walk into the emergency room, but couldn’t sit in a wheelchair either because of his arm. They didn’t really want our daughters to see him like that, so they asked that they wait in the waiting room. However, I didn’t want to leave them in the waiting room the whole time, so I ended up calling a friend from church to come get the girls since I didn’t know how long we would be there. The friend who picked them up had family in town & she said they might be going somewhere later. I told her it was okay if she handed my kids off to some other family in our ward (congregation) as long as she let me know where they ended up!
Richard was in horrible pain. I’ve never seen him in such pain before (and hope I never have to again)!! I ended up saying that it *almost* compared to me being in labor!! It was really horrible! They gave him some short-acting pain medicine that only worked for a few minutes before he started yelling again. They didn’t want to give him anything stronger until the x-rays came back & they knew what they were dealing with & how to pop the shoulder back in because it was obviously dislocated.
After we had been there about 90 minutes, they finally knew what they were going to do and they started to give him Versed to knock him out so they could pop the shoulder back into place. The ER doctor was a woman & the main nurse there was a man. The doctor tried & tried & tried to get the shoulder back in & the nurse was pushing & pulling & putting his weight on top of Richard to try to get everything in the right place. The doctor almost gave up and was going to call an orthopedic surgeon for possible surgery! She turned to me & said, “You have to understand that it’s kind of an insult for an ER doctor to have to call an orthopedic surgeon for one of these!” Then, she took off her white coat (I guess to try to make sure nothing was in the way) and tried again. BINGO! It popped back in! She said, “I guess I should’ve taken that off sooner!” She definitely got a workout in that day! It took about 10 minutes of twisting & turning his arm ways I never knew it could turn in order to get it back in place!
After they got it back in place, they waited for Richard to wake up from the Versed & then they took more x-rays to see if it was broken at all. It was actually broken on the ball of the shoulder (greater tuberosity for my MT friends)! Therefore, after 5 hours in the ER, they put a sling on Richard’s arm & gave us a prescription for pain medicine & sent us on our way with instructions to see an orthopedist on Monday.
During this time, our daughters had been passed off to another family & another friend called me & said she’d get pizza for dinner & pick our girls up so we wouldn’t have to go get them! I know our ward is awesome & I’ve heard lots of stories of wonderful service and I’ve had service rendered before, but never to this magnitude. I’m so grateful for the loving sisters who took time out of their day to help us!
On Monday, I took Richard to the orthopedist & we found out that it is broken (about a 1-mm break) and he will have to be in a sling for 4-6 weeks. At this point, the doctor doesn’t think he’ll need surgery, but he said it’s broken on the part where the rotator cuff could actually pull it away more. If that happens, they would have to do surgery to put pins in the shoulder! We’re all hoping that doesn’t happen!!!
Richard went back to work on Wednesday & is surviving. Luckily, he takes the train to work, so he doesn’t have to worry about driving (since he can’t drive now anyway).
Of course, when life throws you a bump, it has to throw in a twist and/or turn as well!!!! Tuesday, “Bella” woke up and started to get cereal out to eat & ran in the bathroom and threw up! UGH!! Richard was home still, so he stayed home with her. She’s had this happen a few times in the past 6 months or so. However, I didn’t think it was her cyclic vomiting syndrome returning just because she’d only throw up once & then be fine. We actually thought it might just be her allergies & post-nasal drip that gets in her stomach & bugs her. That’s kind of what we expected this time too. However, then she threw up again in the afternoon. Therefore, she couldn’t go to school on Wednesday because of the 24-hour symptom-free rule! I stayed home from school with her on Wednesday. Luckily, she didn’t throw up at all, so she returned to school on Thursday.
We thought we were done with the bump and twist……. then came the turn too!!! “Bella” woke us up at 2:30 in the morning & said, “I just threw up in my bed.” COME ON, R-E-A-L-L-Y?!?!?!??!?! At this point, I’m thinking “Does someone have some Voo-Doo dolls with our names on them or something!?!?” Well, I text my volleyball teacher & tell her I can’t pick up the volleyballs that day & can’t come to class because of “Bella’s” sickness & I stayed home with her again. She threw up one other time in the morning, but then was okay the rest of the day Friday.
Needless to say, this week has been full of some of the worst bumps, twists, and turns that we have had to deal with in our immediate 4-person family in a while. However, it is still true that I’m going through these things with my best friend and eternal family by my side. Here’s hoping that the week after our next anniversary will not be so eventful!!!! (I’m not superstitious, but after this week, I’m really wondering if it has to do with it being the 13th anniversary!)
Hopefully we can have these same smiles on our faces all around our 14th anniversary!!!
Michelle